For extroverts, a wedding is just another fun get-together to look forward to, but it can be a different story for people on the introverted side. Whether it’s their own wedding or not, it means a lot people and a lot of socializing.
That can be a tall order for introverts, but luckily our longtime NY & NJ wedding videographers have worked with enough couples of all kinds to know of some of the things you can do to help. Read on to learn about a few.
Plan a wedding at which you’ll be able to be you.
Sure, if you and/or your partner have always dreamt of a big ballroom wedding celebration, then by all means, do all you can to make it happen. However, you’re not obligated to go that route if you don’t want to, no matter what anyone else wants.
One of the biggest issues many newlyweds-to-be have is balancing the advice and opinions of the people around them throughout the planning process, and that’s not any easier for introverts. That’s why it’s so important to always remember that it’s your big day, not theirs.
So, if you’d feel more comfortable at a more intimate affair, plan one. If you want private vows, do them, but the bottom line is that you shouldn’t make any decisions solely to appease someone or stick to some tradition. Plan the wedding you want.
Give yourself a break.
The wedding planning process can get chaotic, even overwhelming at times, and then there’s the big day itself, not to mention all the bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinners, etc. The point is that all these events can be a lot for an introvert.
So, rather jamming all of them into a very short period of time leading up to the wedding, try to give yourself a break beforehand. Introverts need time to unwind and decompress, so give yourself that chance, even if it’s just a few days.
From there, you may want to set some time aside on your actual wedding day, whether it’s just some “you time” or some alone time for both you and your partner. Trust us, you’ll appreciate even a brief break from the party. In the end, it’ll only help you to appreciate it all more.
Designate a social buffer.
It’s obviously always in your best interest to plan for your big day as best you can, but the truth is that sometimes things happen that you can’t really predict nor plan for. While you hope those things aren’t too big of a deal, you can count on someone being there to tell you about them.
It could be an issue with the guest experience, a special request, etc., the point is that there will likely be plenty of interactions of that nature on your wedding day in addition to all the more social exchanges, so having someone there to help handle them can go a long way.
It could be a close friend or family member, but whomever it is, take it from us, having someone there to watch your back, listen to complaints & issues and to make potentially difficult decisions can be a lifesaver, especially for an introvert.
Remember that it’s your day, so do it your way.
The bottom line is that the last thing most introverts want is to have to their personal life and relationship put on display, which is kind of what a wedding is, or can be. So, just try to plan a celebration that you can truly feel comfortable at and enjoy. We hope these tips help.
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