Okay, so while almost every wedding tradition is technically breakable, there are some that most couples choose to stick to. Whether it’s the way the walk down the aisle is handled or the first dance, some traditions are just more unbreakable than others, but every newlywed-to-be will have their own view on the subject.
What may seem perfectly breakable to some could be mandatory to others. So, in the end it’s entirely up to you, but as longtime wedding videographers in NJ who’ve been to our share of both traditional and non-traditional affairs, we just wanted to pass along some options.
Let’s face it, if there’s one tradition that ends up being pointless more than most when all is said and done, it’s the farewell favor. We’re not saying that there aren’t plenty of creative ways to approach it nor that it can’t be a special part of your wedding, but just that more times than not, the wedding couple doesn’t give it enough thought.
That usually leads to guests either discarding or losing the favors soon after the wedding, or forgetting to take them altogether. Either way, what’s the point? There isn’t one, so unless you’ve got a special plan in place for your favors or you’re willing to give them the time and thought it’ll take to make them worth your while, this is a tradition you can skip to save some cash.
While some couples wouldn’t even think about forgoing paper invitations and save-the-dates, if they’re not as important to you, then you may want to seriously consider breaking from that tradition and taking the paperless route. First off, it’ll save you money, but make no mistake, it also still allows you to set the tone for your wedding, which is precisely what makes this such a breakable tradition.
Breaking from most traditions requires a toss-the-baby-with-the-bathwater approach, meaning you lose everything associated with the tradition by breaking it. With e-vites, however you basically get all the benefits and features of paper invitations, just without the paper. For more on that, check out this post from Brides.com, How to Send Paperless, Email Wedding Invitations.
Okay, so this is one of those traditions that probably seems untouchable to a lot of newlyweds-to-be, and for good reason. After all, wedding cakes can be one of the primary focal points of your decor, not to mention the fact that the cake-cutting is also a traditionally special moment, but if you and your partner aren’t dead set on having a big fancy cake at your wedding, then you can save a good amount of money by going another route.
The best part is that if you choose to serve treats like cookies and/or cupcakes instead, or the very popular donut option, you can still do your own version of a “cake” cutting, but those are just a few of the many alternatives. Check out this post from Martha Stewart Weddings to learn about some of your other options, 24 Delicious Wedding Cake Alternatives.
So, this is kind of a two-parter, because it applies to both the wedding party and the celebration itself. First off, ensuring that there’s an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen isn’t nearly as important to many couples as it used to be, which is why you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite any “extras” just to balance things out, and fewer people means less money.
As far as the other kind of party, it’s becoming more and more acceptable, even preferable, to forgo the expensive sit-down dinner for cheaper alternatives such as morning brunches or serving filling appetizers and drinks rather than a formal dinner. If you do it right, options like these can make for just as unforgettable an experience as the traditional one.
We’ve been NY & NJ wedding videographers for long enough to know that couples should plan the wedding days they want.
The bottom line is that you and your partner should plan the wedding celebration that you both want. No tradition should get in your way of doing that, but if you’re unsure about which ones are generally considered unbreakable and which aren’t, we hope this post helps. Good luck!
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