We’ve been doing wedding photography in NJ for a long time now, which means we’ve worked with a lot of newlyweds and we pride ourselves on trying our best to keep in touch with all the couples we work with long after their big day has come and gone. After all, a wedding is a big ordeal to go through together!
But while every newlywed has his or her own favorite moments as well as biggest regrets, disappointments, etc., many of them share similar feedback, and we figured that if plenty of newlyweds are talking about the same things, then learning about those things could probably be a big help to newlyweds-to-be. So, read on to learn about a few of the most common regrets and bits of advice.
1. Plan around your personalities & trust the pros.
One of the biggest regrets among newlyweds is planning a celebration that didn’t end looking anything close to the one they first envisioned. It’s most often due to listening to too many other people along the way rather than sticking to their guns and planning a wedding that truly aligned with the couple’s personalities and styles.
So, plan around yourselves. It’s perfectly fine to take some advice and guidance from friends and family members, but at the end of the day, it’s your wedding, not theirs. And trust us, planning your own kind of celebration will only make you that much more comfortable once the big day arrives, and that will make for a much more enjoyable and memorable experience for everyone.
Now, just remember that your guests are a much different story from your vendors. Yes, you want to plan a celebration that fits your distinct personalities, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t trust the pros. Both leading up to and on your big day, keep in mind that they’ve been doing this for a while and you shouldn’t let that experience go to waste.
2. Don’t underestimate the power of your pictures & video(s).
We all know how wedding days can get a little hectic at times. There are just so many moving parts, which is why it’s no surprise that many newlyweds-to-be put all their focus on the big day itself and not enough on their photos and videos. They often treat them as an afterthought, but that’s just the thing. They come after, and they’re all that comes after.
Once the big day has come and gone, your pictures and video(s) will be your only way of going back and reliving it all and take it from us, you may miss more than you think. That’s why failing to give photography and videography its due during the planning process is another huge regret among recent newlyweds.
They wish they’d invested a lot more time, effort, and often money into their pictures and video(s) because they realize how much use they would’ve gotten out of them. We’re not just saying that because we happen to do wedding photography and videography, either. We’re saying it because it’s the truth, so don’t make the same mistake.
3. Accept assistance & enjoy it!
Again, no matter the size nor style of wedding you’re planning, it’s rarely an easy process. Every wedding has its own set of issues, which is why you should always accept help when it’s offered. We know, that sounds simple enough, but so many newlyweds talk about how they didn’t want to annoy people or affect their lives, so they just took it all upon themselves.
But the truth is that the only chance you’ll have of enjoying the planning phase—which you should—is if you figure out how to manage the inherent stress and delegating some of the load to some willing participants is a great way to do that. Look at it like this, if they offered, then they’re willing!
Then, try to make it fun. Rather than treating it like a job, treat it like an excuse to go out with friends and/or family and spend some time together. Trust us, if you take that approach, then it’ll go a long way toward allowing you to start enjoying your wedding long before it’s actually arrived.
As longtime New Jersey wedding photographers, we’ve heard it all from newlyweds…
The bottom line is that it’s like they say, a wise man learns from other people’s mistakes, and while we wish that every pair of newlyweds would look back at their wedding day with nothing but satisfaction, that’s rarely the case. Every wedding presents its own set of challenges and issues.
However, there are some challenges and issues that seem to come up again and again in conversations with couples, such as the three discussed above, and those are the ones you really have to be aware of. So, we hope this post helps, and good luck!
About Us: Live Picture Studios has been doing wedding videography and wedding photography in NJ, NY, PA, and CT for years, and we don’t just document details, we create to inspire. Check out our photo gallery and video gallery for some examples.