Anyone who’s ever attended a wedding—and that’s most of us—knows that one of the first questions that’ll pop into your head upon receiving the invitation is what should you get the newlyweds-to-be for the occasion? And we’ve been doing wedding videography in NJ for long enough to know that it’s not always the easiest question to answer.
So, being that our videography team’s been to a ton of weddings in their time in the business, we thought it was only right to get their take on the situation. After all, they’ve seen their share of newlyweds who couldn’t have been happier with their gifts, as well as those who couldn’t have been more disappointed. So, read on for a few tips from the pros to avoid the latter.
If you’re getting an actual gift, mail it.
At one time, almost every wedding had a gift table where guests could drop off their offerings, but that’s not the case nowadays. Most modern weddings no longer include a big gift table, which is why the best bet is to mail your gift to the wedding couple’s home rather than bringing it along with you on the day of.
That is, of course, if you’re getting an actual gift and not simply taking the card-and-cash or card-and-check approach. If you’re going that route, then you can go ahead and bring the card with you on the big day, as most receptions include a card taker who will handle it or a card box in which you can drop your gift.
As far as deciding between the card-as-gift approach and getting an actual gift, it really depends. For instance, bringing a card with some money is very common on the East Coast, so if you’re heading out of your area for the wedding, then you may want to ask some other guests about the appropriate procedure.
When in doubt, don’t stray from the registry.
If you decide that you’d like to get the newlyweds-to-be an actual gift as opposed to a card with a check or some cash in it, then it’s always a good idea to start by checking online to see where the couple is registered. Nowadays, many couples have their own wedding websites with links right to their online registries.
And most stores now allow you to access the registries online, which makes things a lot easier, but you can also always just head to the store in person if that’s reasonable. The bottom line, though, is that you shouldn’t overlook the couple’s registry and jump right to getting whatever gift you see fit without good reason.
Of course there are occasions when that’s appropriate. For instance, if you go way back with one or both of the newlyweds-to-be and know just what to get them, then that’s one thing, but it’s usually a better idea to select a gift from their list. After all, they made it for a reason, and the best part is that you can’t go wrong taking that approach.
Don’t be afraid to take the group approach.
If, when perusing the couple’s registry, you come across a very expensive item, then it’s always a good idea to think about reaching out to some other guests who you know will be attending to see how they feel about pooling some money together to get it before immediately passing it over just because you know you can’t afford it on your own.
Chances are that the newlyweds-to-be registered for the expensive item precisely because they couldn’t possibly afford it on their own, which means that there’s no reason that you should be able, nor have, to either. So, don’t hesitate to call around to see if any other guests would be interested in chipping in to make it happen.
The truth is that these kinds of pricey items are often appreciated most by the newlyweds, no matter how many people had to chip in to purchase them. Remember, it’s all about giving them the gift of their dreams, and while that’s not always possible to do alone, that doesn’t mean that it can’t be done.
Our NJ wedding videographers have seen the best and worst of gift-giving.
When you’ve been to as many weddings as our videography team has, you come across every type of gift imaginable, and while it is the thought that counts, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t some rules and best practices to the process. We hope these tips point you in the right direction.
Happy hunting, and for some more great tips, check out this post from Wedding Paper Divas, Wedding Gift Etiquette: Tips on How Much to Spend and More.
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